I've always believed that life's why has a valid because. At some point, it's a bit hard to understand and fathom everything that is happening at the moment.
It will crush you, beat you, make you cry and burst into sadness. It will burden you, make you feel down - a mess, and turn you into a lonely, lifeless individual walking in a vast planet.
Why me? Of all people?
Why do I have to go through all these?
Why is it happening again?
Why am I in this situation?
Why am I feeling this way?
Why do people do this to me?
Why can't I be happy just like everybody else?
If you come to think deeper, in every question thrown is an honest to goodness answer that we (or I) often don't want to accept. We (or I) are blinded with the faults and the why's that consumes us with negative thoughts for a while
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I guess, at some point, we have to dig deeper into the situation we are currently facing. We don't have to look for all the because in all the why's but at least, think outside the box.
Why me, of all people?
Why not? I mean, those who are burdened are molded. Trust the process and sooner or later, you'll realize that what you're going through is actually what you need in order to become a better version of you. Why you of all people? It's because you have the potential to come out of it alive. Trust Him. You are delicately picked.
Why do I have to go through all these?
A lot of us likes to use this question as if we carry all the burdens in the world. When in fact, what we're going through is a tiny itsy bitsy polka dot in a pool of mishaps. You may be beaten and bombarded with heartaches, bills, deadlines, and things not going your way. But that is not "all". There are passed reports, reconnected friends, good news, beautiful sunrise and sunsets, and a whole lot more. The burdens aren't everything that you should focus on.
Why is it happening again?
Come to think of it. If the same thing happens to you twice. Is it because you have not learned anything on the first encounter? After all, things happening again is an obvious reminder that you must be missing something - a lesson, an idea, a strategy, or let's say, a coping mechanism. So the next time you feel like having a dejavu, examine yourself, don't feel so down and cry all night. Think of what the situation might be teaching you. There must be something to learn from it. Just look somewhere else this time.
Why am I in this situation?
Train your mind to see the good in any situation. This is what speakers tell us. So I guess, despite the misfortunes, there is something good that will come out with it. You are in an unfavorable situation because you are in it. The odds aren't always in your favor, but you can always change your perspective on things. You are in that specific situation for a reason. It might not be as clear as the waters of the river, but just like the river it will eventually change its course. It. Will. Pass.
Why am I feeling this way?
Feelings are subjective. Faced with the same situation, two people will have different feelings about it. You are feeling down, depressed, not in the mood because you choose to. You feel how you feel at that moment because, at some point, you choose the degrading part over breathing in and out and showing up like a real warrior. Don't be too consumed with the downfall. Don't be too engrossed with the burdens. Don't make the situation your blanket of excuses. Feel the pain, but don't embrace it for a long time. It's toxic.
Why do people do this to me?
Everybody's unique. What might be good for you might cause something degrading to another human being. Your happiness might not mean the happiness of another. People do what they think might be better for them, even at some point, at the expense of another party. And what's worse, they might not be aware that what they're doing is exactly what will kill you from the inside. So yes, people do what they do. So, as a part of a world where only the strong survives - remove the toxic people in your life and let go of the hurt. It's easier said than done, but it will pay off sooner or later.
Why can't I be happy just like everybody else?
Everybody else has different levels of feeling and emotions at different stages of their lives. Most people might look happy and free on their social media post, but that is not the whole story. Some are just experts in hiding their true emotions. Some are genuinely happy. Some are just showing up for no reasons. You can be happy just like everybody else if you choose to. The burdens might not disappear all of a sudden if you choose to think positive. But perspective will change the momentum.
These are the questions I ask myself,too. I have my fair share of mishaps, misfortunes, misadventures. I get hurt, I stumble, I feel down. Honestly, I sometimes don't know how to approach it, especially when what you're given are false hopes. Nevertheless, I choose to live life like how I picture it out to be.
Go out when you're feeling down. Do something worthwhile. Meet new friends. Have less expectations. And please, don't put meaning in every action done. People are people. Change is inevitable. Expect the unexpected. Love yourself. Live your Life. Do not depend your happiness in an external factor. Happiness starts within. Choose to be happy. Choose you. Love you.
